What to Do When You Hate Your Life: 45 Healing Ideas

Wondering what to do when you hate your life? This post is full of ideas that help me when I hate my life, which I hope will help you too. Read these 45 strategies for when you hate life.


I hope these 45 suggestions help if you’re wondering what to do when you hate your life.

I want to talk about what to do when you hate your life.

Why? Because it’s important!

I feel like there’s an unfair pressure in society to be happy all the time.

Everybody wants to focus on the positive, and there’s stigma around being down in the dumps.

But it’s unrealistic.

I mean, just look at the last two years of living with COVID…

Life can be really fucking hard sometimes!

1 in 4 people experience a mental illness every year in England and that pressure ‘to be okay’ leads countless people to suffer in silence.

If you’ve reached a point where you hate your life, then I feel for you.

Moreover, I want to offer some suggestions to (hopefully) make a tough situation a little better. Hating life right now?

Below you’ll find 45 ideas, strategies, and tools that should help. They’re all things I find personally useful in my low moments.

I hope they’ll come in handy for you too.

[Last updated: February 2022]

An Important for When You Hate Life

Before I get into the ideas of what to do when you hate life, I thought it’d be worth drawing a distinction between different types of “hating life”.

Basically, as I see it, there are two of them. With a bit of wiggle room in-between, There’s the:

  1. I’m stuck in a rut kind of hating life, and the
  2. I’m genuinely depressed kind.

Let’s face it, when you hate life, neither of them is fun.

But it seems fair to say that depression needs more serious support.

This blog post might be useful. However, if you’re struggling with life to the point where you’re thinking of ending it, for example, then please seek professional help.

See your doctor, tell a loved one, call a helpline (in the UK, Samaritans is 116 123)…do what you can to get the support that’s going to make a real difference.

There’s not a one-size-fits-all approach to getting through a tough time.

Ignore anyone that says otherwise.

In my opinion, the main thing to keep in mind when you’re thinking ‘help me, I hate my life right now’, is to know it’ll get better.

“A useful analogy I came across once compared difficult emotions to the tides on a beach: as high as that tide gets, you know it’s going to recede eventually.”

The same goes when you hate life. The same thought (‘I absolutely hate my life’) might be running through your head right now.

But with the right approach and support, you’ll get through it.

Whether you count your current case as category one or category two, the ideas and strategies in the coming post should come in handy.

I’ve taken some from my past experience working in mental health; others from books, articles, videos, and people I’ve met and learned from.

Mix, match, and experiment with the ideas until you find something that makes a difference to you.

I hope you’ll find as much value in them as I do on my down days.

Don’t quite hate your life, but want to make some positive changes? This post might help.


When you’re thinking to yourself ‘I just hate my life’, it can feel like you’re stuck at one of these road signs.

What to Do When You Hate Your Life: 45 Ideas, Strategies, Tips, and Tools

With that said, let’s dive into the ideas. Here are 45 things that might be worth a try next time you’re feeling at a low point.

1. Identify Why You’re Unhappy with Life

It always helps to know why you’re feeling a certain way.

It won’t always be as rational as cause and effect.

Yet there are definitely times when there’s a specific reason (or reasons, plural) for our struggles.

It might be something practical that you’ve done, or are doing; it might be something external to you that’s causing the problem.

Take an objective look at your life. Run a personal audit. Take stock of your daily habits and practices.

What are you doing? What are you not doing?

Finding a solution is always easier when you know the problem.

You might land on an answer that helps you turn the tables.

2. Get Super Self-Aware

Everything I just said takes self-awareness, which, in my opinion, is crucial to a happy life.

Knowing more about who we are and how we operate gives us greater insight into what we need to thrive. That’s why it never hurts to take a long hard look in the mirror to figure yourself out.

Now, you might not like what you see!

But gaining a solid grip of who we are is an essential first step to improving ourselves.

It helps you figure out who you want to be, what you want to do, and how you want your life to look.

3. What to Do If You Hate Your Life? Hold Yourself Accountable

It’s all too easy to point fingers.

And, fair enough, sometimes problems genuinely stem from external sources.

Yet blaming someone or something else won’t help. It’s protective, for sure. We get to maintain the sense that we’re in the right.

But it doesn’t solve anything! Most of the time it only exacerbates matters.

If it’s outside of you, you can’t do anything about it, right? You’re off the hook.

Owning our experience by holding ourselves accountable does the opposite. You choose the standpoint that everything’s your fault.

It doesn’t sound fun, but there’s nothing more empowering. Suddenly, you have control of turning it around.

4. Figure Out Your Why

Figuring out your ‘why’ helps cultivate a sense of purpose.

It’s the reason you get out of bed in the morning- a goal, an activity, an interest…anything.

For example, my current ‘why’ is to live on the road and earn enough passive income to give me full control of my time.

Meaning and purpose are central to a happy life. Without purpose, it’s easy to get nihilistic about everything.

Purpose is motivating. It imbues life with meaning and helps you walk through it with drive and ambition.

5. Check What You’re Putting Into Your Body

I’m always surprised at how my diet impacts how I feel.

Not long ago I felt tired, lethargic, and down in the dumps. I was hateful and bitter for about a week until I ate a meal with masses of kale in it.

It was crazy- no exaggeration, within moments I snapped out of my negative mood.

I went from a state of thinking ‘I really hate my life’, to ‘life is bloody awesome’.

Now, that was an extreme case that I’d never experienced before. However, it reminded me of how important it is to track my diet and eat what my body needs.

You can feel on the brink of existential disaster. But all you might really need is certain key nutrients.

The same goes for staying hydrated.

Drinking enough water is just as key to maintaining a healthy mental state.


Getting enough sleep can be key to feeling like life isn’t, in fact, as bad as it sometimes seems.

6. Get Enough Sleep

How well are you sleeping right now?

I know I’m always at my worst when I’ve slept badly the night before. Likewise, I feel awesome when I’ve slept well.

Alas, you can’t always just magic yourself a good sleep on a whim!

“When I worked in mental health, almost everyone with a mental illness that I met struggled with insomnia. With or without meds, their mind kept them awake at night.”

Unfortunately, a lack of sleep can have dire consequences.

It interacts and compounds your physical, mental and emotional woes that are already hovering around. Worse, that then makes it even harder to sleep.

It’s a vicious cycle.

Hating your life?

Try and get into a better sleeping routine. Put the phone down, turn the TV off, get a comfier mattress, and go to bed at the same time each night.

These tips from Healthline should help.

7. Cut the Drink and Drugs

Back to what you’re putting into your body for a moment.

I’m not a doctor, but it seems fair to say that drugs and alcohol don’t help.

When you hate your life, the short-term gains might make them tempting.

After all, both can lift your spirits and distract you from life’s difficulties- at least for a brief time.

Likewise, indulging in the occasional session with friends might seem harmless. In the bid to feel better about life, though, I’d try to avoid them.

In a bid to rid yourself of those ‘I hate my life’ thoughts, avoid or cut down on them where possible.

8. See Thoughts for What They Are

This one’s a classic mantra that’s stuck with me from my mental health days.

““Thoughts are thoughts, not facts”.”

It’s a useful reminder when you’re feeling terrible about yourself, a situation and your life.

Everything you’re telling yourself is just a thought!

There isn’t necessarily any actual truth to it. Reminding yourself of that may help you give yourself a break and start seeing things more objectively.

9. Know That You’re Not Alone

There’s nothing more isolating than going through a challenging time.

It can feel lonely and as if nobody understands.

Trust me, nothing could be further from the truth. If you hate your life, know that you aren’t alone. Other people share your experience!

This realisation doesn’t change anything from a practical perspective, but it may help you feel less disconnected.

10. Be Self Compassionate (When You Think ‘I Hate Myself and My Life’)

It strikes me that there’s a fine line between hating your life and hating yourself.

That’s why I wouldn’t be surprised if there are people thinking: ‘I hate myself and my life’.

Self-hate’s toxic.

“It’s an insidious voice inside your head that tells you you’re worthless; that you’ve failed, and that you’ll never do or become anything of value.”

Self-compassion’s the antidote. It’s about treating yourself as you would others- giving yourself some credit, respect, and care.

It’s also about doing what you need to feel better. Sometimes that means putting yourself first (without beating yourself up for being ‘selfish’).

You know as well as anyone that hating your life isn’t fun.

Be kind to yourself. Beating yourself up’s only going to make stuff worse.


It can feel lonely when you hate your life. Knowing that others are going through something similar might be a reassuring thought.

11. Practice Gratitude

Gratitude’s a powerful tool against negativity of any kind.

Try being angry and grateful at the same time. It isn’t possible!

It might sound backward, but if you hate your life, try to focus on things you’re grateful for.

Make it a daily practice- identify and meditate on a few things you’re truly thankful for in the moment.

It could be the sun on your face, the family by your side, your health, a treasured possession, the food on the table, nature…anything.

Go one step further and find it in yourself to be grateful for the challenges in your life too.

If nothing else, they’re providing you with an opportunity to overcome adversity!

12. Try Positive Reframing (I Hate My Life So Much, But…)

A big part of me hates the idea of positive thinking.

You can’t just magic a positive mindset when you feel like shit. It takes time and effort.

Something that can make a difference, though, is called positive reframing. It’s another psychology technique that essentially involves flipping a negative into a positive.

“The mass of mundane work on your desk could be teaching the value of discipline and focus. A broken heart, as debilitating as it is, could help you appreciate the friends and family in your life.”

And so on.

It won’t always work. You might be unable to think of any possible way to find the positive in your situation. That’s totally fine.

When it does work, though, reframing can be a powerful way to flip problems on their head.

13. Take Action

Taking action’s a top way of rectifying a problem.

It’s often essential to the endeavour.

I think this one applies most to feeling as if your life’s in a rut though.

Action’s downright essential to seeing change. In my experience, the specific action matters less than the process of just doing something.

“It’s about stepping out of your head and getting the ball rolling.”

It’s about going for a walk as a first step towards getting in shape.

It’s about reaching out to an old friend to alleviate loneliness.

And it’s about taking a shower to lift your mood.

Action’s at the heart of progress.

And, at the end of the day, that’s what we’re looking for when we hate life.

14. Take Time Out

Give yourself a break in every sense.


Take a day off work.

Take ten minutes for yourself in the morning.

Step away from the stress.

Forge some ‘me time’ in the midst of a busy life. It can work wonders.

15. Be Alone

This tip’s heavily dependent on your current situation.

You might be spending all of your time by yourself already! If that’s the case, then being with other people might be better.

However, for anyone else, I sometimes find spending time alone to be a remedy for tired spirits and low mood.

It’s easy to use the stimulation of your social life to shield personal pain. You rush from event to event for fear of confronting your problems.

Being alone can seem scary.

It might be what you need to start seeing things for what they really are though.


Seeing the positive is easier said than done when you’re in a tough place. It’s unlikely to happen overnight, but know that you will come through the other side.

16. Get Physical

Exercise is another top way to start feeling better.

It’s definitely a go-to step for me whenever I’m struggling in myself.

Something about it helps me get out of my head. It’s a distraction that has the added bonus of pumping my system full of feel-good neurochemicals!

Getting my body moving and my blood pumping always picks me up from a dark space.

17. Get Present

Staying present is the ultimate way to cultivate a more positive mental state.

“Trouble often exists in our heads. We worry, ruminate and fixate on past and future matters. Very rarely are we actually rooted in what’s happening.”

Being present is about awareness and focusing on the here-and-now.

When we’re truly present, most of our troubles just fade away.

Think about experimenting with meditation.

I recommend looking into mindful meditation first- this is something I (try to!) do every day that I’m sure helps me feel better about life.

It’s also a simple practice that you can do anytime and anywhere.

You stop, focus on something sensory, and pay attention to the thoughts that come and go.

At the very least you’ll feel less stressed as a result.

18. Get Goal Oriented (Essential When You’re Thinking ‘I Hate This Life’)

I’m a big fan of setting goals.

I think it relates to my earlier point about finding a ‘why’ and cultivating a sense of purpose.

Goals give you something to work towards.

They act as a guiding hand and North Star, which shows you where you want to go. Each day has a bit more direction.

Goals focus your attention and can serve as a handy distraction from outside issues. They’re often the first step towards achievement.

19. Get a Sense of Progress

That word, achievement, can be key when you hate your life.

I mentioned progress very briefly above.

Progress will forever be an antidote to negative emotions.

“A sense of growth feels inherently positive.”

For example, when I came out of a long-term relationship a few years ago, working on this blog was a major help.

It was a distraction, for one thing. But it provided a sense of progress too.

At the time I felt utterly unmotivated to do anything at all. I’d never experienced anything like it: everything felt pointless.

Until that is, I got the ball rolling with this blog. Hate your life?

Do something- anything- today to feel a similar sense of growth. Start a new project, go for a run, write down your goals, read a page of your book, finish that bit of work you’ve been putting off for days…

The satisfaction (and distraction) it’ll provide can be a vital source of comfort to turn to when you’re at your lowest ebb in life.

20. Get a New Job (‘I Hate My Job So Much’…)

Don’t do a job that’s making you unhappy (unless you literally have to).

“If you wake up each day thinking ‘I hate my job so much’, then assess your options, save up some money, and quit.”

If possible, find the job of your dreams beforehand. However, the main thing is to remove yourself from a situation that’s contributing to your unhappiness.

You might even love your job!

But if you’re feeling stuck, unchallenged, or just keen for a change, then it might be time to move on.


Wake up thinking ‘I hate my job so much’? Think hard about quitting and doing something that’ll inspire you instead.

21. Prioritize the Process, Not the End Result

This one’s another lesson I have to remind myself of all the time:

Stay present, enjoy the ride, and don’t get caught up on any future ‘endpoint’.

I heard about an interesting study that relates to the value of this approach.

Basically, they got two groups of people and asked them to run on a treadmill for a set period of time.

“The first group was told to focus on the finish; the second was asked to focus on the moment to moment experience of running.”

That second group ended up running further and enjoying the experience more.

Keep that in mind when you’re walking (or running…) through life.

Goals are important, but staying present as you work toward them is where the magic happens.

Fixate on the moment-to-moment experience and use it to lever yourself out of a debilitating mindset.

22. Go Travelling (My Personal Preference If I Hate Life At Any Point!)

Another big one for me:

If you’re sick and tired of life, take a trip.

“I know of few things better than travel to soothe the wounds you’re carrying. As much as anything else, it’s a chance for a change of scenery and time away from the stresses of daily life.”

Just don’t expect your personal struggles to stay at home.

Trust me, you can be 1000 miles from home and still be worrying about the same old stuff!

Sometimes you can’t just use travel as an escape. It won’t work. Instead, you have to give yourself time to enter fully into the experience and push yourself through adversity.

Here are all of my travel posts if they’re of any interest.

23. Get Out in the Sun

Dark and gloomy weather has a profound effect on my mental state.

I always feel more depressed in winter.

By contrast, sunshine’s like a magic potion for my mood.

Sometimes I hate everything about my life, but then get out into the sunshine and blue skies and feel brighter and lighter in moments.

You might do too…

24. Go Into Nature

Nature’s another scientifically proven way to feel better both physically and mentally.

You just have to be close to green and open spaces to reap the rewards.

Been a while since you’ve got out into the great outdoors?

Think about rectifying that. Go for a hike or a cycle ride in nature.

“There’s nothing like a mountain range, lake, forest, or grassy field to nourish the soul.”

25. Put Away the Tech

We’re all hooked to our phones and computers nowadays.

We spend hours on these devices every day, at work, checking social media, playing games, and whatever else.

Technology isn’t all bad. Heck, without it, I wouldn’t be able to write this blog!

But it has definite downsides too.

Even the backlights to the screens can do damage.

Chuck in their addictive nature, the social comparisons, and the disconnect from actual face-to-face human interactions, and you’ve got a recipe for trouble.

It’s the classic irony that people talk about:

“We’re more connected than ever before, but rates of loneliness are higher than ever.”

Try going on a tech detox.

Combine it with a trip into nature and some physical activity. You’re (almost) guaranteed to feel a bit better.


Hate life? Get off the tech and out into nature. With views like that, it’s hard not to feel slightly more inspired by life!

26. Try Not to Compare Yourself to Others

Negative comparisons between yourself and others can make you feel awful.

You see the lives of others in your social groups and/or people you follow on social media.

They seem to have it made; they’re succeeding where you’re failing. They’re earning more money, driving better cars, living happier lives, having more vacations…their lives seem perfect.

Looks can be deceiving. You’d be surprised what they might be going through internally too.

This short film sums it up perfectly:

Are you living the life that you post? A Social Life is a short film about a career driven woman named Meredith who’s living the life she’s always dreamed of… online. Meredith strives to live a balanced life: staying fit, working hard and connecting with her friends; she is creating her “image” within her broader social media friend base.

If at all possible, stop the comparisons. It’s more than likely that others are looking at you thinking precisely the same thing.

Even if people are ahead of you somehow, remember to give yourself credit too. Again, self-compassion is key.

27. Surround Yourself with Good People

Having good people in your life can make a mighty difference.

Nurture the relationships you have with these individuals.

Spend as much time with the people who care for and inspire you. Their love, support and example will all rub off on you.

28. Get Rid of Bad People and Influences

While you’re at it, try ridding yourself of the negative people in your life too.

Don’t spend any more time than you need to with so-called friends who bring you down, lead you astray, and hinder your pursuit of loving life.

29. Learn Something New

I think learning’s another powerful antidote to negativity.

It feeds into the idea of progress and growth.

No matter what you settle on, furthering your education just feels good. You’re doing something to better yourself.

Give it a shot!

Pick up an old uni book, start a free online course, teach yourself a new skill…

30. Look to Motivational People (In Real Life and Online)

It doesn’t matter whether you look to the internet or real life.

There are amazing individuals everywhere from whom you can learn and grow from. Find the people who motivate you and immerse yourself in their example.

For all its problems, I find the internet to be a particularly valuable resource in this endeavour.

We live in an incredible era where the world’s most impressive people are at our fingertips.

“You can get online and listen to the talks from hugely inspiring figures; see people overcoming huge adversity. It’s hard not to feel inspired.”

I watch YouTube videos all the time where impressive people share their insights and advice on life.

The Tim Ferriss Show and Impact Theory are two I recommend.

It feels like a form of mentorship- their way of life eeks its way into my own day. Maybe it’ll do the same for you.

You might also like this post full of inspirational quotes.


The stars always remind me of how insignificant my worries and concerns are in the grand scheme of things.

31. Look Up at the Stars

Have you ever heard of star therapy?

It’s a term I came across that involves looking up at the night sky to soothe your worries and concerns.

The scale of what you’re looking at reminds you that (most of) your struggles really aren’t anything to lose any sleep over.

Each tiny white light is a sun that’s millions of miles away.

I find that when I really grasp the reality of the night sky, the sense of awe I feel sets things in perspective. It almost always shakes me from a funk.

32. Picture Yourself at Your Funeral

Here’s a thought experiment that might come in helpful.

It’s nothing complex.

You just picture yourself at your own funeral, or laying dead in your grave.

That sounds morbid. But the thought of death’s another way to realize how little those current worries really matter.

“Will you still be worried about it all when you’re on your death bed? Would it still carry any weight, or concern?”

The smart alecs among you might be thinking you wouldn’t be worried about anything if you’re already dead!

Hopefully you see the point though.

In the face of death, are your current problems really important enough to take up so much of your time and energy?

Probably not.

33. Realize That Less Is More

You can’t buy yourself a better life.

Just listen to all the unhappy millionaires there are out there.

We’ve been led to believe that material possessions are all important.

Money makes a difference to a certain point; a level of material comfort is undoubtedly nice.

But you won’t find fulfilment in material stuff.

By contrast, in my experience, getting rid of your things can be a true help.

Think about someone who spends an hour of their morning deciding what to wear.

With a closet full of clothes, they can still bemoan the fact they have nothing to wear.

Over time, the stuff you own starts to own you. Getting rid of it can create valuable physical and mental space. Why not have a clear-out?

34. Do Something Nice for Yourself

When life throws you lemons, you need to look after yourself.

Think about treating yourself somehow.

Go to the spa, play a round of golf, grab a beer with a friend, eat that cookie, get your hair done, read your book, go on vacation…Think about what makes you happy and indulge in it with no guilt involved.

35. Help Somebody Else

It’s ironic that helping others is one of the best ways to feel better about yourself.

Some might argue that it’s selfish!

But if everyone’s a winner, who can really complain?

They get a nice deed, you enjoy the positive feeling that comes with it. So go out of your way to help somebody else.

“Buy a stranger person lunch, help an old lady across the road, donate to charity, call your mum, volunteer at a local homeless shelter…And don’t expect anything in return.”

Good deeds elicit a neurochemical reaction that releases the ‘love hormone’ oxytocin into your system.

It’s the same stuff that’s released when you hug someone- it feels great and facilitates a sense of bonding.

Life feel’s more worthwhile when you’re in the habit of helping others.

If you’re looking for purpose, then this is a great way to find it.


Exercise always helps me when I start hating life at all. Exercising with other people around combines it with a social element too- another tool for improving wellbeing.

36. Hating Life? Fake It!

There’s something to be said for the whole “fake it ‘til you make it” idea.

Forcing a smile can trick your brain into thinking you’re happy.

After all, the same muscles are being worked. It releases mood-lifting neurochemicals into your system as a result.

You end up genuinely feeling happier in the process.

Don’t believe me? Here’s a post from NBC News about it!

It won’t work all the time, and you definitely shouldn’t just pretend you’re happy all the time.

However, if you’re looking for a ‘hack’ that’s been shown to help, then faking a smile isn’t a bad idea.

37. Become a Leaf on a Tree

Get involved in something bigger than yourself.

Society’s great at teaching us to fend for ourselves.

“But never forget that we’re social animals. We need to feel a sense of belonging- to feel part of a group. Look around for opportunities to join one.”

It might be a good cause in your community, or a local sports team to get involved with.

Finding an outlet that creates a sense of belonging is a powerful way to feel better about life.

38. Be Like a Lobster

Did you know that lobsters are soft, squishy animals encased in hard outer shells?

That soft inner animal gets bigger over time, but the outer case can’t grow any further. The pressure inside their shell mounts as the lobster outgrows it.

Eventually, when the pressure’s too much, the lobster finds a safe space to hide. Once it’s in place, the lobster then sheds its shell and waits patiently while it grows a new shell to reside in. I came across this story in a lesson about stress.

The message was this:

“In difficult times, be like a lobster. Don’t try to fight your issues, forget about them, or run away from your stresses. You’ll only ever make matters worse.”

Instead, take your time, be kind, go somewhere safe and give yourself a chance to face the issue; be vulnerable.

As you do so, you might find yourself forming a new ‘shell’ and greater inner peace that comes with it.

39. Take it Slow When You Hate Your Life

Hard as it is to contemplate, there might not be a quick fix for this.

You might not start loving life again overnight. It could take days, weeks, or months.

Don’t put the pressure on yourself to just ‘be okay’. That’s not how it works. Accept that there might be a journey ahead of you, and make your peace with it.

Take it one step at a time.

40. Turn Outwards

If you’re anything like me, you might be spending a lot of time facing inwards.

You’re constantly analysing, questioning, and ruminating. You get carried away in a whirlwind of thoughts and internal dialogue.

Self-analysis and introspection are great for learning about who you are and figuring out what you need.

However, they’re also a one-way ticket to overwhelm and distress.

Make the effort to face outwards as much as possible too. Do fun stuff, speak with friends, and focus on solving world problems instead of just personal ones.


Try and turn your attention outwards in some way. Be with other people, involve yourself in a project, apply yourself to an external problem in society…in time you will start feeling more inspired.

41. Speak to (and Be With) Friends and Family

A problem shared is (often) a problem halved.

You probably don’t want to feel like a burden or to bring anyone down. You might not even want anyone to know how you’re really feeling.

“There’s no shame in suffering though. It’s part of the human condition.”

Sometimes talking about it to a close and trusted loved one can make a mighty difference. Give it a shot. You’ll probably get nothing but support and kindness coming your way.

42. Speak to a Professional

You could speak with a trained professional too.

These people are trained to listen and help you overcome internal struggles.

They provide a safe and confidential space to discuss your problems without fear of judgment.

For serious cases, they might also be able to prescribe medication to work alongside therapy.

Medication isn’t a solve-all. However, in collaboration with other support, it can make things seem more bearable when times are exceptionally tough.

For anyone really suffering, going to professional mental health services and/or speaking with a professional therapist is a route I highly recommend.

43. Force Yourself to be Social

I never want to socialise when I’m feeling low.

I’d rather be left alone to my own devices, far away from others. The last thing I want is to interact with people; my inclination is to just stay by myself.

But it always brings me out of myself when I do end up socialising.

Being around others can be a helpful distraction and it reminds you of the good people in your life too.

It also tickles another fundamental need we all have: to belong. Again, we’re social animals. We need to feel a sense of connection to other people.

Socialising, even when we’re down and hate life, can help us feel accepted and fulfilled.

44. Know That It’s Okay (You Aren’t Somehow Broken)

This is a big one.

You aren’t somehow broken if you hate your life. You haven’t failed in any way. And you aren’t letting yourself down.

“Any negative judgment involved will only compound what’s already a rubbish situation.”

Remember, self-compassion.

Sure, get honest with yourself about what’s going on, hold yourself accountable, and make the changes that need to be made.

At the same time, know that it’s totally okay to feel the way you are. Validate your experience by accepting it.

45. Accept, Surrender, Trust

A lot of the problems we have come from the struggle.

The struggle is stressful by nature.

Stress arises when you realize there’s an issue and fight like a fish in a net to free yourself from its clutches.

Acceptance does the opposite (remember the lobster!).

Sometimes there’s nothing you can do but ride out the wave. See it, accept it and enjoy the release of pressure that ensues.

Stop fighting and surrender yourself to the experience; trust that it’ll get better.

Why Do I Hate My Life? Time to Wrap Up

There you have it: 45 suggestions for what to do when you hate your life.

I think it’s important to talk about these things.

Too many people are out there struggling with their mental health not to. The more it’s discussed, the more possible it becomes to have an open discussion about it.

Whether you feel stuck in a rut in life, deeply depressed with it, or both, I hope this post has proved somewhat helpful.

It’s never fun when you hate life, but know that it’ll get better in time.

Give the ideas and strategies above a shot- they should make a difference.

And let me know how you get on as well. Are there any other strategies or ideas you use to improve a blue mood? I’d love to hear them.

Drop a comment below to let me know.

And, more than anything, please remember to seek out professional support if/whenever you’re in deep distress.

Here’s to the future. I wish everyone a full, happy, and enriching life!

3 thoughts on “What to Do When You Hate Your Life: 45 Healing Ideas”

  1. I’m an early elder woman and I live with my son. I’ve relocated to several places these past 12 years but I picked a city (all of them small to medium sized) not because I really wanted to go there but because of housing or medical. The 1 thing that gets me excited about life is traveling. I love skyscrapers but have experienced getting to look at them rarely. But traveling emotionally upsets my son. We just canceled a trip we were planning as my son got all freaked out about it plus was having issues with his teeth (he need 3 of his teeth pulled badly). He has a mouth full of cavities. He says we can still go on the trip but we’ve had to cancel it every time we planned to go like we’ve cancelled 3 or 4 times in the past over a month. I want us to travel to Houston, TX and I know it’s probably dangerous. Should I give up on this dream of traveling to an exciting big city with skyscrapers?

    • Hey Lisa! Thanks for reading the post and leaving a comment. That sounds like a really tricky situation with a lot going on, but I never like the idea of giving up on dreams- no matter what they might be or how many obstacles are in the way! I know nothing about Houston, TX, but I do know from experience that places tend to be far safer in real life than we imagine them to be/hear about on the news, so maybe it’d be the same there? It’s rare that I’ll ever tell anyone what they should or shouldn’t do either (who am I to know what’s best!?), but I’d always encourage people to take a leap of faith sometimes and do the things they’re passionate about (no matter how scary they might be). Whatever path you take, I hope you’re able to find joy and fulfilment from it! All the very best, Danny

  2. This has been really interesting to me. I’m almost 56 and after 37 years of my marriage discovered my husband having an affair with a woman whom I told him 6 years ago was after him. He’s done almost everything he’s wanted, gotten almost everything he wanted including not working for the past 4 years. Now he wants 50% of everything and I don’t think its fair. He’s also an undiagnosed narcissist who can always rationalize everything he does. I can move forward as is or fight for more than the 50%…. but may be less in court. I HATE MY LIFE RIGHT NOW AND CAN’T SEE HOW TO MOVE FORWARD. These suggestions have helped so I’ll try a few and see how it goes Thanks

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